Hey guys! This is Kenny at learnhowtoprosper.com.
Hey, I’m up here in a beautiful West Yellowstone and it’s absolutely gorgeous.
You can see some of the trees out here and a little bit later today we will be floating down Big Springs.
I wanted to share something that I’ve been thinking about for the last couple of days, and that is how to control your emotions.
Now, something that a lot of people don’t realize is that emotions are really what color most of our perceptions and emotions are a very fleeting thing.
In fact, it’s said that if you can hold off for 90 seconds you can completely change your state in any given time.
And so it’s interesting how many times you can begin your day and maybe you had a bad dream, maybe you woke up with the kink in your neck, maybe you had an argument with your roommate or your partner or spouse the night before and all of a sudden you wake up in a rotten mood and you just carry that throughout the entire day.
I don’t know if you ever noticed how when that happens…and when you’re driving to work someone cuts you off…You’re giving them the universal hand signals, they’re returning them. You’re yelling at each other.
You get into work or wherever you’re going and you retain the bad mood and you’re frowning at people and then of course every time you do that returns that back to you.
People are frowning back and it just one little thing can ruin your entire day.
So, I think it’s so critical to learn the role of emotions. Now, emotion is really what determines most of our decision-making if not all of it and then later we’ll go back and rationalize or justify our decisions based on logic.
But our initial decisions are almost always made based on emotion, so that’s why it’s so important to always be consciously aware of your emotional state and I’ve had this happening a lot.
This last summer, I bought a four-plex and it’s a rehab and there are just millions of problems to be solved and what I would find is sometimes I get to the end of the day and I’m just in a rip-roaring bad mood and I recognize that I’ve allowed these little challenges and problems to completely color my entire perception of my life.
And then, when I sit back and think about it like everything’s going great with the four-plex these are just normal problems, yeah.
You’re going to buy new water heaters and they don’t work. You’re going to hire someone to do concrete and they mess up part of the job. You know you’re going to be closing in on a tenant that you want to have occupy the facility and and credit check doesn’t pass.
I mean there’s just a million things. These things always happen and therefore, one thing that I’ve really been doing on a very conscious way is taking the time about every hour so to really just check in and see where am I emotionally.
And most of the time just making myself aware of what’s happening, is enough to completely change my emotional state.
Now, if it’s something more a little bit more difficult than oftentimes it’s just a matter of writing something down maybe our brain at some subconscious level is always trying to solve problems and maybe you’ve got a list of to dos just rattling around your brain.
For me if I can just get those written down and formulate them into some kind of a go forward plan that immediately my emotional state improves.
Of course you can do other things, you can take a walk, you can get up and increase your physical activity. Sometimes that is all it requires for me to kind of snap out of it but I also like to meditate and pray.
I think these are two very important things to really turn your emotional state around quickly because once your emotional state is in it’s right place everything you do for the rest of the day is going to be much more better aligned with your true purpose and the things that you want to accomplish not only in that day but in your life. So just a couple of quick steps to consider.
Number one is awareness. Try to be aware of your emotional state. I like to do this about once an hour. I actually put a little alarm on my phone.
It kind of just gives me a ping so that I can look at it and get that reminder. Now I can go 3 4 6 hours without having to do that because I’m just much more consciously aware of my emotional state.
The second step is once I am aware then I evaluate things I just do a self-assessment. You know what’s my demeanor like? Am I being cheerful? Am I being positive? Or am I being negative? And if I’m being negative then I turn that around by identifying what steps need to be taken.
Maybe I’m concerned about a problem, maybe someone just ticked me off and you know that happens. People are people and often times, it’s a great benefit to just sit there for a minute and realize it doesn’t really matter.
Right, what other people say or do because its outside yourself. You can control yourself, you can control your own emotion, so that’s what I do.
I say you know what, shine that, I don’t care from here going forward. I’m going to release that and I’m going to forgive them and I’m going to let it go.
Or if it’s a task or something needs to be done I just line that up and define the next time I can work on that task and then the final step is to just reset my emotional state.
I take and I write down the tasks I need to accomplish. Maybe I take a walk and then at that point I just reframe it and oftentimes that’s where an affirmation or just positive statements are going to be so powerful for me.
It’s there a couple that I always like to go back to is;” this too shall pass” and “I can do anything that strengthens me through Jesus Christ”.
I am a Christian and I rely on my faith and maybe you have something else that you rely on. I remember the big picture of things because so often we get caught in the micro picture and we don’t remember the macro picture.
I will have affirmations that just remind me that this is just a small fleeting thing in a passing moment.
So hopefully, these three steps will help you out. I hope you’re looking at your own goals and you’re evaluating your emotional state.
I’ll tell you what it is so much better to live at a positive emotional state than in a negative one!
With that I’m going to sign off and I hope this finds you all having a fantastic day!
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See you guys!