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Hi there! Hey this is Kenny from learnhowtoprosper.com.
Today I’m going to talk about part 3 of how to be happy and there’s probably a hundred part series we could create on this point.
Today, I’m going to talk about one particular point and that is very important.
This is critical: don’t be a victim.
This is such a critical point so many people have turned their power over to other people and other things and therefore they walk around helpless and when you’re helpless it is very difficult to feel any sense of peace or happiness because you’re blaming someone else.
When you blame other people you have given them all the power. They’re the ones in control, they’re in charge.
So, I wanted to share a couple of points that we can anchor back to, to really help ensure that we don’t fall into victim thinking.
All right! Here’s the first point and it very critical, take responsibility for your life, I would say for everything in your life and here’s what I’m saying.
Even if something happens to you like, for example, someone runs into your car, even though it may not have been your fault… maybe they did a hit-and-run in the parking lot even in a case like that.
You can still control your own thoughts and feelings and how you approach that particular event.
So take responsibility for your life, don’t turn that over to someone else.
Don’t say it’s not fair.
Whenever you drop into that mindset, you immediately are turning into a victim and that’s not what we want.
Number two, don’t blame others.
The blame game is lame dude.
You do not want to blame because once again you’re falling into this trap of thinking that what happens is due to other people and other things outside yourself.
I found that my happiness has increased significantly by empowering myself by never turning over my power to someone or something else.
I don’t blame others if something comes up. I just think, “that’s on me, and I got that”. I’ll go ahead and handle it. There is something about that.
Just taking that personal accountability and it’s rare in today’s world particularly in the political world.
Everyone’s blaming everyone else. No one’s taking accountability.
So, take accountability.
Here’s the next point, own your life.
Now, what I mean when I say own your life is if you’re working for someone else, if you’re in a destructive relationship then it’s up to you to take ownership for your life.
It’s up to you to determine where you’ll go and what you’ll do next.
You don’t want to just roll over and say, “well I guess that’s just the way it is…” because nothing is “the way it is” unless you allow it to be.
Here’s a really important thing to consider: You create your own reality.
I want to say that again, you create your own reality.
Sometimes we think that we’re living inside a game where someone else is running the joystick of our life. And that we have no power or control over what we do, who we are or the way that life unfolds for us and I just want to make it very clear that you are the creator of your life.
Now, I know that at times it can feel like you don’t, but even in those situations where we feel like perhaps we’re least in control. For example we’re in a soul-sucking job work that doesn’t fulfill maybe you’re working with some very derogatory and criticizing type boss you can choose to do something else.
Maybe it will take you 90 days or for that matter… you could choose to walk out today.
Now, you want to consider the consequences and sometimes that’s the right answer if you’re in a bad relationship where you’re being destroyed then you can change everything right now by acting now. By getting out of the relationship.
Here’s the thing, we can either choose in this life to be acted upon. Where everything just happens to us. Or we can choose to act on our external world.
Now for reasons I don’t understand about half the population chooses to be acted upon. Maybe more than half… Too many think, “well I can’t do anything about that…”
Sure you can!
We are created to act for ourselves, to act on our environment. We have intellect, right?
We have the ability to act on everything outside of us and just that mentality of knowing that you can act and not just have to wait lay there like a helpless amoeba.
We can actually go and act on the things around us. So own your life, act on life.
This is a related one; don’t turn over your power to others. I think I mentioned this.
Before you can forgive others maybe you’re holding onto a grudge, maybe you’re blaming someone, maybe you you’re obsessed with someone or something or maybe someone offended you.
In any of these cases don’t turn your power over to them and certainly don’t become angry and frustrated and walk around with that enormous burden of emotion and anger in your life.
There’s no reason to do that. Being angry is actually turning your power over to someone else. Being frustrated is turning your power over to someone else because to be frustrated is to say, “there’s nothing I can do about this”.
This is their fault. This is something that they did. This is something that happened to me again.
Instead think, “I’m going to go and act on life and make good things happen”.
Go! Do that right now.
I want you to think about the one thing that you are giving over to someone else.
What is that?
I want you to take that back today. All right, take that power back.
Don’t become a victim and don’t allow yourself to fall into that entitlement mindset where other people owe you something.
You know you owe yourself, go after it. It’s yours.
The whole world, the universe is yours to act on to.
Take all of the talents that you have and all of the resources that are available to us all in this day and age and go and act with that and make something bigger and better.
So hopefully, this is helpful. This part 3 of how to be happy I’m sure part 4 is coming up next.
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Make it a great day!